You can't stop the waves, but you can learn how to surf

Dear Darla,

Today. I learnt to be better, to have more openness to anyone. I never did this before so fast. But I met someone today. A friend. She has a same case with me. My family case I mean. Almost same but in different way. I just feel like, “hey ! I got a new sibling!” Before we met, we are just strangers to each other. We just talked for few hours, and I can tell everything to her. Still 5% not yet. But it is a really big things for me. Usually I don’t like this. Even we support each other.

About my last post, I think I focus too much about looks. There is a saying, “Don’t judge book by its cover”. That’s true that it is hard to ignore someone’s attractive. But the person I met today, shows me. She has a bright face that everyone will like. In fact that she passed a lot of pain. To listen to her story, I feel so grateful. How can I complain my problem when someone had passed a bigger pain than mine. This world is too big compared to my problem. 

I re-read my book, Chicken Soup for The Soul “Life Lessons”. There is a research that forgiving can improve our life. To be honest, I still hold anger, or you can say grudge. Once, someone kicked and mocked my back. It gave me a lot back pain, and since that time, my scoliosis got worse. I often feel pain in that side got kicked before. So I always blame on that person, when I have back pain, my heart also hurts at the same time. Anger which is hard to be cope. I want to be open-minded. Living like that will make me as a bad person. I want to have better and meaningful life. 

So, just think about this.  

"If I have the strength to hold anger for that long, why don’t I use the strength to forgive? "

All is about our mind. This world may be full of problems. Let’s change it to this world may be full of blessings that we skipped. I want to create my positive world. Yes, I’m not an angel that will always be kind, or think positively all the time. What we can do is trying. Try.

One of my favourite quote. “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn how to surf.” Then my favourite book says “Learn to accept what you can’t change, and try to change anything that you can change”.

So, that’s all for today ;)